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06-08-2008, 09:40 PM
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Don't take this the wrong way, but you should share this with a professional therapist. There's nothing wrong with going in for a mental "check up" once in a while and you have some legit issues that friends, OTB or DT aren't going to fix. If money is tight, there should be therapists available through your insurance or even county, local hospitals, etc. All that should truly matter to you are your children and that should be the starting point for whatever decisions you make with their Mom.
You should also make sure your rights as a Dad are protected as she can't dictate when you see the kids like she is. And if that other stuff is is true, you have tough decisions to make about stepping in and protecting your children even if it risks alientating her. You don't have to be together to do what's best for the kids.
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06-08-2008, 09:46 PM
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GBBob has it right...find a good therapist...no shame in getting help and you will not believe how it can change your life for the good.
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06-09-2008, 05:36 AM
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06-09-2008, 10:10 AM
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Some sort of therapy is definatley a good start. Just you or even better both of you together, if you still hope of making this work. I would also see what your rights are when it comes to the children. Maybe there is a chance that you can get custody (if that's what you want). But it sounds like she is going through some kind of phase, trying to catch up on everything that she missed to have 2 kids. Maybe that's why she has this love/hate thing for you. Deep down she probably cares for you, but then when she starts thinking about the sacrifices she made for you she gets angry. I don't know what kind of mother she is, so maybe she doesn't want custody (that's a longshot). You really need to just give her some space and hopefully she will grow out of this phase and realize what she has. I would make sure that there is no shady stuff going on when she is at home with the kids. Obviousally the kids will need some extra special with all that's going on, they are the #1 priority.
As for the OTB, it isn't a big deal if you are going there for personal relaxation and enjoyment. But to go there as a way out of dealing with the situation then I could see it being/turning into a problem. But definiatley talk to a professional! Good Luck.
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06-09-2008, 10:12 AM
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06-09-2008, 10:16 AM
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06-09-2008, 10:18 AM
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