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[SCUDSBROTHER]

This is an example of someone who has a Narcissistic Personality Disorder. There are number of different characteristics that they usually have, but the most striking is the way they go about accumulating an admiring (but passive ) fan base. They are not interested in anything but the simplest function of mirroring. When the mirror acquires a personality of it's own, the narcissist is incensed. So, they constantly need to be told they are great ( and they hate to give credit of any type to those that they consider there to simply be their mirror.) An example of a Narcissistic singer's activity would be to cover ten songs by one famous singer, and then want everyone to know they aren't a fan of this singer. "Not at all." They aren't a fan of anybody. They just like the songs. As a matter of fact, in private, amongst "friends," they will make fun of the very singer they try to imitate. The narcissist doesn't actually have friends (friendship is only possible among equals.) Narcissists don't consider anybody "equal" to themselves. They are pathological liars, and have very good acting (thespian) skills. The narcissist lacks the ability to empathise with others, but has the ability to act empathetic ( these are some of the greatest actors in the world.)

Originally Posted by SCUDSBROTHER

This is an example of someone who has a Narcissistic Personality Disorder. There are number of different characteristics that they usually have, but the most striking is the way they go about accumulating an admiring (but passive ) fan base. They are not interested in anything but the simplest function of mirroring. When the mirror acquires a personality of it's own, the narcissist is incensed. So, they constantly need to be told they are great ( and they hate to give credit of any type to those that they consider there to simply be their mirror.) An example of a Narcissistic singer's activity would be to cover ten songs by one famous singer, and then want everyone to know they aren't a fan of this singer. "Not at all." They aren't a fan of anybody. They just like the songs. As a matter of fact, in private, amongst "friends," they will make fun of the very singer they try to imitate. The narcissist doesn't actually have friends (friendship is only possible among equals.) Narcissists don't consider anybody "equal" to themselves. They are pathological liars, and have very good acting (thespian) skills. The narcissist lacks the ability to empathise with others, but has the ability to act empathetic ( these are some of the greatest actors in the world.)

Dr. Phil thinks you should stay away from
all Turks. He also suggested you stay away
from all these Hollywood American Idol types.

[SCUDSBROTHER]

There are ways to deal with Narcissists, but you have to understand that they will be virtually unable to honestly give out compliments, or empathize with others. So, when they do appear to do these two things,then there will always be a reason they are doing it. They want something, and are acting in a way that will make it easier for them to get something they will ask for in a few days or so. It's an obvious pattern, and narcissists are exposed by time. You can't deny the obvious pattern, but you can't confront them with it, because it will only make things worse. Any type of criticism will be unproductive. It's so useless with them. They think they are above this.

By the way, this trainer going for the Triple Crown today is quite a character. I don't know that much about him, but he is odd. I do know he worked as an assistant for his father, and his father "didn't have it in his personality" to give his son credit for his talent. So, at the very least, that was a narcissistic tendency that his father had.

Originally Posted by SCUDSBROTHER

There are ways to deal with Narcissists, but you have to understand that they will be virtually unable to honestly give out compliments, or empathize with others. So, when they do appear to do these two things,then there will always be a reason they are doing it. They want something, and are acting in a way that will make it easier for them to get something they will ask for in a few days or so. It's an obvious pattern, and narcissists are exposed by time. You can't deny the obvious pattern, but you can't confront them with it, because it will only make things worse. Any type of criticism will be unproductive. It's so useless with them. They think they are above this.

By the way, this trainer going for the Triple Crown today is quite a character. I don't know that much about him, but he is odd. I do know he worked as an assistant for his father, and his father "didn't have it in his personality" to give his son credit for his talent. So, at the very least, that was a narcissistic tendency that his father had.

So were you just quizzing all of us?

[SCUDSBROTHER]

Originally Posted by pgardn

So were you just quizzing all of us?

I wanted to see if people had much expertise with dealing with them directly. It's not easy. It's not easy to overlook some of the things they do. Some of the simple courtesy things (easy things we are all taught to do) are not important to them. That's very difficult to get used to (especially when you see them work so hard to be liked.) That discrepancy is always there.