Why Get Married?

randallscott35 · #1 03-13-2007, 05:44 PM

The 25yr group was kind of in a sweeter spot with regard to marriage....The last 15 years has seen much more carnage in the marriage market. Its easy to stay together when you've reached 20 yrs. Where else are you going to go? But the newer group seems unlikely to make it to the long ones. Just 2 months ago was that article that for the first time in U.S. history there are more single women than married women. Tells you all you need to know.

GPK · #2 03-13-2007, 05:48 PM

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The 25yr group was kind of in a sweeter spot with regard to marriage....The last 15 years has seen much more carnage in the marriage market. Its easy to stay together when you've reached 20 yrs. Where else are you going to go? But the newer group seems unlikely to make it to the long ones. Just 2 months ago was that article that for the first time in U.S. history there are more single women than married women. Tells you all you need to know.

Nobody fights for marraiges to last anymore Rand. Divorce is viewed as the easy way out.

randallscott35 · #3 03-13-2007, 05:59 PM

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Nobody fights for marraiges to last anymore Rand. Divorce is viewed as the easy way out.

In your situation, you could've fighted, right? But sometimes it simply isn't going to work.

GPK · #4 03-13-2007, 06:04 PM

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In your situation, you could've fighted, right? But sometimes it simply isn't going to work.

I did fight...for a year...but sooner or later you realize if the other person isn't will to put in the same effort...you simply walk away.

On a brighter note...Honu and I have been talking and we have come to the ideal situation. She is in Cali...I am in VA. It is the IDEAL 3,000 mile apart marriage. She gets the health benefits from my work and I get the 1 time a month sex when we see each other. I can't see any negative in the situation at all

randallscott35 · #5 03-13-2007, 06:07 PM

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I did fight...for a year...but sooner or later you realize if the other person isn't will to put in the same effort...you simply walk away.

On a brighter note...Honu and I have been talking and we have come to the ideal situation. She is in Cali...I am in VA. It is the IDEAL 3,000 mile apart marriage. She gets the health benefits from my work and I get the 1 time a month sex when we see each other. I can't see any negative in the situation at all

The negative is clear to me.

GPK · #6 03-13-2007, 06:14 PM

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The negative is clear to me.

Would be more than I am getting now Rand

randallscott35 · #7 03-13-2007, 06:14 PM

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Would be more than I am getting now Rand

Kev, let's not ruin your reputation here. Nobody talks more than you...Don't tell me Superman is dead. I won't hear it.

Honu · #8 03-13-2007, 06:09 PM

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I did fight...for a year...but sooner or later you realize if the other person isn't will to put in the same effort...you simply walk away.

On a brighter note...Honu and I have been talking and we have come to the ideal situation. She is in Cali...I am in VA. It is the IDEAL 3,000 mile apart marriage. She gets the health benefits from my work and I get the 1 time a month sex when we see each other. I can't see any negative in the situation at all

And you get into the races for free and I can overdose on Starbucks coffeee lol.

GPK · #9 03-13-2007, 06:13 PM

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And you get into the races for free and I can overdose on Starbucks coffeee lol.

just stay the hell away from my beer...and we will be fine

Honu · #10 03-13-2007, 06:14 PM

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just stay the hell away from my beer...and we will be fine

That would be "OUR" beer.

Danzig · #11 03-13-2007, 05:58 PM

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The 25yr group was kind of in a sweeter spot with regard to marriage....The last 15 years has seen much more carnage in the marriage market. Its easy to stay together when you've reached 20 yrs. Where else are you going to go? But the newer group seems unlikely to make it to the long ones. Just 2 months ago was that article that for the first time in U.S. history there are more single women than married women. Tells you all you need to know.

LOL!! you romantic devil you!

as for that study, i think they counted widows as being single. oh yeah, like those ladies all CHOSE to be single! (well, the ones in jail did!!)

randallscott35 · #12 03-13-2007, 06:00 PM

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LOL!! you romantic devil you!

as for that study, i think they counted widows as being single. oh yeah, like those ladies all CHOSE to be single! (well, the ones in jail did!!)

They chose to stay single after their husband croaked when they could've gone out there and got back on the horse.

Danzig · #13 03-13-2007, 06:28 PM

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They chose to stay single after their husband croaked when they could've gone out there and got back on the horse.

lmao...oh boy!

i enjoy being married very much, but i know i wouldn't do it again--no way another guy could measure up. wouldn't be fair to him.
besides, i don't think i'd feel up to training another won...

randallscott35 · #14 03-13-2007, 06:29 PM

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lmao...oh boy!

i enjoy being married very much, but i know i wouldn't do it again--no way another guy could measure up. wouldn't be fair to him.
besides, i don't think i'd feel up to training another won...

That's fine, but it does prove that once is enough....Kev found that out the hard way....Guiliani is on his 3rd. But he'll learn.

Danzig · #15 03-13-2007, 06:31 PM

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That's fine, but it does prove that once is enough....Kev found that out the hard way....Guiliani is on his 3rd. But he'll learn.

oh, but i'm sure this time it's 'the one'. pffft.

randallscott35 · #16 03-13-2007, 06:32 PM

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oh, but i'm sure this time it's 'the one'. pffft.

It could be. I'm not cynical on the 3rd one. Just the first one. Don't dive in, and you won't get to a 3rd.

GPK · #17 03-13-2007, 06:33 PM

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oh, but i'm sure this time it's 'the one'. pffft.

I would remarry if Deb asked me nicely...

Danzig · #18 03-13-2007, 06:34 PM

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That's fine, but it does prove that once is enough....Kev found that out the hard way....Guiliani is on his 3rd. But he'll learn.

what kills me is when a guy or gal calls dr laura or writes dear abby for advice. 'well, dear, did you know he was like that when you dated'? well, yeah, but.....now they're tired of it, and want things to change. sigh.

well, yeah, he cheated, but that was before we made a commitment. lol
or there's, well he hit me a little, but i said the wrong thing. but now he beats me all the time, what should i do? oh, but they can't LEAVE, who will support them and the kids?? oh yeah, marry a loser--go ahead and bring some kids/victims in to screw up too!

crazy crazy.

randallscott35 · #19 03-13-2007, 06:36 PM

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what kills me is when a guy or gal calls dr laura or writes dear abby for advice. 'well, dear, did you know he was like that when you dated'? well, yeah, but.....now they're tired of it, and want things to change. sigh.

well, yeah, he cheated, but that was before we made a commitment. lol
or there's, well he hit me a little, but i said the wrong thing. but now he beats me all the time, what should i do? oh, but they can't LEAVE, who will support them and the kids?? oh yeah, marry a loser--go ahead and bring some kids/victims in to screw up too!

crazy crazy.

Cheaters suck and don't change their colors...Hopefully they end up with Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction.

Cajungator26 · #20 03-13-2007, 08:15 PM

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The 25yr group was kind of in a sweeter spot with regard to marriage....The last 15 years has seen much more carnage in the marriage market. Its easy to stay together when you've reached 20 yrs. Where else are you going to go? But the newer group seems unlikely to make it to the long ones. Just 2 months ago was that article that for the first time in U.S. history there are more single women than married women. Tells you all you need to know.

Tell that to my parents... they were married 25 years when they got divorced in 1998.