Why Get Married?

[paisjpq]

my boss and his wife have been married for 62 years...and they still love each other desperately. unless I can have that then i don't want any of it...

This thread smells like a bull ring that hasn't been cleaned for years.

[Cajungator26]

Originally Posted by paisjpq

my boss and his wife have been married for 62 years...and they still love each other desperately. unless I can have that then i don't want any of it...

Agreed, Beth.

[brianwspencer]

I agree. I don't really care to get married, I just want the legal protections that go with it.

Call it a sandwich, just give me the damn things and let's be done with it.

edit: I don't worry about it too much, because it will happen before I die.

[ddthetide]

maybe you'll have a different view when you get older?

i'm divorced twice. the first time i married just as i turned 22, was divorced by the time i was 25. a couple years had gone by and i figured out we split up over something that could have been worked out. basically i drew a line in the sand and she crossed so i called it quits.

the second we were together 7 years total and married the last 2. she was a "funcationing alcoholic", meaning she got up and went to work everyday. i knew she drank and propably to much but had NO Idea she drank ALL Day ! from the time she got up until she went to bed and started over the next day.
one day she dropped over and had a seizure. Doctors explained it from the alcohol, thats how i found out how much she drank.
she dryed out and things were good, until she figured i wasn't good enough anymore. thats was pretty crushing to me.

i was single for 8 years and dated very little, worked a Whole lot. i was re-introduced to my current wife by some friends. we'd not seen each other in about 10 years and she had divorced also.
we've been together for 6 years now and married for 1 year april 10.
i've enjoyed the last 6 years more than any in my adult life and look forward to MANY, MANY more!

i tell this because maybe it just takes some of us to get older or some experience to figure out how it's supposed to work.

sorry for being sappy. thought maybe you'd like a different side of it.

[Cajungator26]

Originally Posted by ddthetide

maybe you'll have a different view when you get older?

i'm divorced twice. the first time i married just as i turned 22, was divorced by the time i was 25. a couple years had gone by and i figured out we split up over something that could have been worked out. basically i drew a line in the sand and she crossed so i called it quits.

the second we were together 7 years total and married the last 2. she was a "funcationing alcoholic", meaning she got up and went to work everyday. i knew she drank and propably to much but had NO Idea she drank ALL Day ! from the time she got up until she went to bed and started over the next day.
one day she dropped over and had a seizure. Doctors explained it from the alcohol, thats how i found out how much she drank.
she dryed out and things were good, until she figured i wasn't good enough anymore. thats was pretty crushing to me.

i was single for 8 years and dated very little, worked a Whole lot. i was re-introduced to my current wife by some friends. we'd not seen each other in about 10 years and she had divorced also.
we've been together for 6 years now and married for 1 year april 10.
i've enjoyed the last 6 years more than any in my adult life and look forward to MANY, MANY more!

i tell this because maybe it just takes some of us to get older or some experience to figure out how it's supposed to work.

sorry for being sappy. thought maybe you'd like a different side of it.

Thanks for this post. I hope that someday I'll meet my life partner too, but in the meantime, I just have to enjoy life for what it is. I've found that when you look too hard for what you want, you sometimes miss it. Sometimes the things that are REALLY the best for you are right in front of you all along, but you don't pay attention because you're too busy looking for what you THINK is the best thing. (Does that make any sense at all? )

Congrats on your 1 year anniversary coming up.

[Seattleallstar]

Originally Posted by Cajungator26

Thanks for this post. I hope that someday I'll meet my life partner too, but in the meantime, I just have to enjoy life for what it is. I've found that when you look too hard for what you want, you sometimes miss it. Sometimes the things that are REALLY the best for you are right in front of you all along, but you don't pay attention because you're too busy looking for what you THINK is the best thing. (Does that make any sense at all? )

Congrats on your 1 year anniversary coming up.

I used to always think that saying was BS, but after having a few things happen I very much agree with that statement now.

[randallscott35]

I think the relationships I've had have soured me more on it, but I really feel if you don't want kids, you shouldn't get married...I agree with the person who talked about being committed regardless of whether you are married or not. Dated the same girl for 6 years and never once was unfaithful in any way...SO committment should still be possible.

[magic_idol]

There is Nothing better it's like being on a rollercoaster ride without having to pay

[GenuineRisk]

On a related note:

http://www.nytimes.com/2007/03/11/us...8bd&ei=5087%0A

[ArlJim78]

Originally Posted by magic_idol

There is Nothing better it's like being on a rollercoaster ride without having to pay

Gee, you make such a compelling case.

[Buffymommy]

A bunch of you out there seem like ones who have been burned. I am not trying to be sappy and boring, but I really like being married. My husband is my best friend as well as my lover. We clicked right off the bat.

I am a firm believer in marriage. Always have been. My husband was married before and divorced within a year. This is my first marriage, but had the bf/gf thing for many years with a man. WAS VERY grateful that I didn't get married. It is why I am a firm believer in living together before marriage. If you can't live together, don't get married. It isn't going to work.

I am proud to say that in September my husband and I will have been together for 10 years and married for seven in October. WOW! It doesn't seem that long.

Honestly, Genuine is right. Lets print this thread out and see where everyone is in say 5 years?

[SCUDSBROTHER]

Most guys who get married do it because they are forced to.

[Grits]

Originally Posted by SCUDSBROTHER

Most guys who get married do it because they are forced to.

With that thought, keep on holding out, ya hear.