Is Being Gay A Choice?

[hi_im_god]

It all boils down to treating a person with dignity and respect no matter what thier filthy deviation is as long as they also treat you with dignity and respect. I have no problems with a person who is a pervert. Ive met people like that before. Dont push it on me and we will get along just fine.

this just seems more honest.

[Antitrust32]

Originally Posted by hi_im_god

It all boils down to treating a person with dignity and respect no matter what thier filthy deviation is as long as they also treat you with dignity and respect. I have no problems with a person who is a pervert. Ive met people like that before. Dont push it on me and we will get along just fine.

this just seems more honest.

thats just not fair.

[ateamstupid]

I always love the "I'm fine with it, but just don't push it on me" qualified acceptance sentiment.

Chances are if chicks aren't beating your door down, gay guys think you're ugly too.

And what do you care if a gay guy hits on you? Tell him you're not interested and walk away. How is that any different from a chick you think is ugly hitting on you?

[Antitrust32]

I honestly took Nascar's "dont push it on me" as basically "just dont hit on me" which is a perfectly fine response. If he meant it as "dont let me know or ever talk about your partner and I'm cool".. then thats one thing. If he doesnt want a man to hit on him, there really is no problem in that.

It would be nice to see Nascar clarify that statement, but he might be getting some unfair criticism.

[ateamstupid]

Originally Posted by Antitrust32

I honestly took Nascar's "dont push it on me" as basically "just dont hit on me" which is a perfectly fine response. If he meant it as "dont let me know or ever talk about your partner and I'm cool".. then thats one thing. If he doesnt want a man to hit on him, there really is no problem in that.

It would be nice to see Nascar clarify that statement, but he might be getting some unfair criticism.

The point is that it presupposes that getting hit on by gay men is a frequent enough issue for him that he has to include that qualification. Somehow I doubt that's the case. It also implies that being hit on by a gay guy is somehow more offensive/dangerous/scary than being hit on by an ugly girl, and I don't understand why/how that is.

[Antitrust32]

Originally Posted by ateamstupid

The point is that it presupposes that getting hit on by gay men is a frequent enough issue for him that he has to include that qualification. Somehow I doubt that's the case. It also implies that being hit on by a gay guy is somehow more offensive/dangerous/scary than being hit on by an ugly girl, and I don't understand why/how that is.

some guys just feel really uncomfortable being hit on by a gay man. Other guys (like you) are more comfortable with their own sexuality, and it wont bother them much to just say "no" to a gay guy and move on.

neither reaction is wrong, and you are correct, there is probably a 99% chance Nascar will not be hit on by any gay guys anyway.

[philcski]

Originally Posted by Antitrust32

some guys just feel really uncomfortable being hit on by a gay man. Other guys (like you) are more comfortable with their own sexuality, and it wont bother them much to just say "no" to a gay guy and move on.

neither reaction is wrong, and you are correct, there is probably a 99% chance Nascar will not be hit on by any gay guys anyway.

Agree with this. I got hit on by gay guys when I lived in NY ALL THE TIME. Didn't bother me at all. Some of my friends would get extremely uncomfortable when even approached. It's really how comfortable you are with yourself than anything else.

[brianwspencer]

Originally Posted by Antitrust32

I honestly took Nascar's "dont push it on me" as basically "just dont hit on me" which is a perfectly fine response. If he meant it as "dont let me know or ever talk about your partner and I'm cool".. then thats one thing. If he doesnt want a man to hit on him, there really is no problem in that.

It would be nice to see Nascar clarify that statement, but he might be getting some unfair criticism.

I was hoping he'd respond, too. The post I made after he wrote that was important because for LOTS of people "don't push it on me," means FAR less than "don't hit on me." Their idea of having sexuality "pushed" on them is any time they actually have to wind up being aware that gay people exist and live normal lives and have partners, etc. Non-excessive public affection (ie, a kiss on the cheek, holding hands, etc) is "pushing it on them."

Originally Posted by ateamstupid

Chances are if chicks aren't beating your door down, gay guys think you're ugly too.

LOL. Chances are that if chicks think you're ugly, gay men think you're even worse...and probably say lots of nastier stuff about you behind your back because of it.