such a sad story

[my miss storm cat]

I agree one hundred percent but I'll tell you... it's a very hard thing to do sitting in one of those ****ing rooms. White on white on white, makes your eyes want to bleed. There are layers of sound... beeps and sighing sounds and machines that breathe... there are tubes and tape and black and blue marks. One of the machines has numbers on it the go down slowly. You hold your breath every time the person laying there inhales and then again, waiting for them to exhale. You can't take your eyes off the lines on the moniters and when the doctors come in to talk to you they do so softly and make you feel like the world is suddenly that little room and the conversation they are having with you is one they've never had to do before.

Honestly I made the decision before the room, before the doctor with the soft voice, before the nurse came in to close the blinds (I made her open them. Why would my sister want to die in darkness? **** that, there were seagulls outside. She would have told them to open the damned things up so I did it since she couldn't).

I can still see every second of it in my head.

I had six months to know it was coming and I have grown to appreciate that rather then to resent it. It is not enough time BUT it is so much more than so many get.

So I read something like what this poor family is going through and my reason agrees with you completely BUT if I were that poor girls mother?

Yeah... it's one thing to say if someone is brain dead they are (rightly) dead and another to be in that room.

As much as I don't want to admit it I might be doing the same thing.

I hope the family gains whatever it is they need for the courage to let her go. I hope they can find acceptance with grace and give each other comfort and get through what I'd imagine is the hardest thing they will ever have to do in their lives.

Poor baby girl.

[Danzig]

i know it, it's awful. i cannot imagine a worse pain than losing a child. my heart goes out to that poor family. just a tragedy. who the hell dies from a freaking tonsillectomy?!

[my miss storm cat]

Originally Posted by Danzig

i know it, it's awful. i cannot imagine a worse pain than losing a child. my heart goes out to that poor family. just a tragedy. who the hell dies from a freaking tonsillectomy?!

I know. It makes no sense.

[GenuineRisk]

Originally Posted by Danzig

i know it, it's awful. i cannot imagine a worse pain than losing a child. my heart goes out to that poor family. just a tragedy. who the hell dies from a freaking tonsillectomy?!

Gawker has a piece up about this right now and in the comments section, a surgical resident said that there are so many blood vessels in that part of the body that post surgical bleeding is not surprising- from what I read, the girl awoke after surgery, started bleeding and went into cardiac arrest.

I'm not defending the hospital; I hope there's a full investigation (a real one) and that if there's cause the family sues (I imagine they will anyway), but it's a reminder that surgery is never something to be regarded lightly. Sometimes the doctors do everything right and the patient still dies.

[Danzig]

Originally Posted by GenuineRisk

Gawker has a piece up about this right now and in the comments section, a surgical resident said that there are so many blood vessels in that part of the body that post surgical bleeding is not surprising- from what I read, the girl awoke after surgery, started bleeding and went into cardiac arrest.

I'm not defending the hospital; I hope there's a full investigation (a real one) and that if there's cause the family sues (I imagine they will anyway), but it's a reminder that surgery is never something to be regarded lightly. Sometimes the doctors do everything right and the patient still dies.

exactly! it's why i would never get operated on by choice. women have died having plastic surgery done. vanity isn't worth that type risk.

yeah, they said she started bleeding from nose and mouth, just a shame. my mother had complications when she was a kid from her t'ectomy, but i don't know that i'd ever heard of someone dying after that type surgery.
the girl had apnea-i just wonder if that caused other issues in that area of the throat...not a doctor, so just wondering if there's a tie somehow.

[GenuineRisk]

Originally Posted by Danzig

exactly! it's why i would never get operated on by choice. women have died having plastic surgery done. vanity isn't worth that type risk.

yeah, they said she started bleeding from nose and mouth, just a shame. my mother had complications when she was a kid from her t'ectomy, but i don't know that i'd ever heard of someone dying after that type surgery.
the girl had apnea-i just wonder if that caused other issues in that area of the throat...not a doctor, so just wondering if there's a tie somehow.

Since the surgery was to help the apnea, I wouldn't be surprised, either. My best friend's dad died as a result of his apnea. He dozed off one afternoon without his CPAP machine and never woke up.

[dellinger63]

About one in every 15,000 tonsillectomies ends in death

http://www.surgeryencyclopedia.com/S...illectomy.html

[dellinger63]

To give some perspective.

The chance of a student being shot and killed at school in a given year.

The average risk of a particular US student being shot and killed at school in any given year is as follows:

Student of any age: 1 in 15 million
K-8 Student: 1 in 18 million
9-12 Student: 1 in 10.6 million

http://www.psychlawjournal.com/2013/...-part-iii.html

[Danzig]

Originally Posted by GenuineRisk

Since the surgery was to help the apnea, I wouldn't be surprised, either. My best friend's dad died as a result of his apnea. He dozed off one afternoon without his CPAP machine and never woke up.

apnea is what killed reggie white. was only 43, i'd have to think he was still in good shape after years of playing football.