Is Being Gay A Choice?

[Antitrust32]

I honestly took Nascar's "dont push it on me" as basically "just dont hit on me" which is a perfectly fine response. If he meant it as "dont let me know or ever talk about your partner and I'm cool".. then thats one thing. If he doesnt want a man to hit on him, there really is no problem in that.

It would be nice to see Nascar clarify that statement, but he might be getting some unfair criticism.

[ateamstupid]

Originally Posted by Antitrust32

I honestly took Nascar's "dont push it on me" as basically "just dont hit on me" which is a perfectly fine response. If he meant it as "dont let me know or ever talk about your partner and I'm cool".. then thats one thing. If he doesnt want a man to hit on him, there really is no problem in that.

It would be nice to see Nascar clarify that statement, but he might be getting some unfair criticism.

The point is that it presupposes that getting hit on by gay men is a frequent enough issue for him that he has to include that qualification. Somehow I doubt that's the case. It also implies that being hit on by a gay guy is somehow more offensive/dangerous/scary than being hit on by an ugly girl, and I don't understand why/how that is.

[Antitrust32]

Originally Posted by ateamstupid

The point is that it presupposes that getting hit on by gay men is a frequent enough issue for him that he has to include that qualification. Somehow I doubt that's the case. It also implies that being hit on by a gay guy is somehow more offensive/dangerous/scary than being hit on by an ugly girl, and I don't understand why/how that is.

some guys just feel really uncomfortable being hit on by a gay man. Other guys (like you) are more comfortable with their own sexuality, and it wont bother them much to just say "no" to a gay guy and move on.

neither reaction is wrong, and you are correct, there is probably a 99% chance Nascar will not be hit on by any gay guys anyway.

[philcski]

Originally Posted by Antitrust32

some guys just feel really uncomfortable being hit on by a gay man. Other guys (like you) are more comfortable with their own sexuality, and it wont bother them much to just say "no" to a gay guy and move on.

neither reaction is wrong, and you are correct, there is probably a 99% chance Nascar will not be hit on by any gay guys anyway.

Agree with this. I got hit on by gay guys when I lived in NY ALL THE TIME. Didn't bother me at all. Some of my friends would get extremely uncomfortable when even approached. It's really how comfortable you are with yourself than anything else.

[The Indomitable DrugS]

Originally Posted by philcski

Agree with this. I got hit on by gay guys when I lived in NY ALL THE TIME. Didn't bother me at all.

Nope.

You just responded by buying another pink shirt.

[philcski]

Originally Posted by The Indomitable DrugS

Nope.

You just responded by buying another pink shirt.

LOL... I'm wearing one right now, just for you.