here it goes...

[3kings]

Originally Posted by hockey2315

I'd recommend backing off - it's not like you'll really lose her forever if she's the mother of your kids. Let her realize what she's missing out on. . .

Have her give you the kids instead of her mother, at least you will get to spend more time with your boys. When she gets home you can not be judgemental about where she was or who she was with. This will not be easy, but it is the correct thing to do. If she sees the love you have for your children, she will keep you in her life for their benefit.

[jcs11204]

Originally Posted by 3kings

Have her give you the kids instead of her mother, at least you will get to spend more time with your boys. When she gets home you can not be judgemental about where she was or who she was with. This will not be easy, but it is the correct thing to do. If she sees the love you have for your children, she will keep you in her life for their benefit.

i wont lie, i am very judgemental, but she does the same thing to me, questions me about what im doing, and then says i dont care anyway. it is almost impossible not to ask her where she is, or to not call. i dont want to call her a lot and when im doing it i know its pushing her away and i still cant stop

[Rileyoriley]

You were both very young when you had the kids. Sounds like she's looking for what she thinks she missed out on (going out with friends, partying, etc.).Would she consider counseling with you? If not, please remember it's your kids that are missing out on both of you right now. They need you.

[horseofcourse]

I would simply spend as much time with your sons as you possibly can. Offer to babysit whenever possible when you aren't working and she takes off for the night. I don't know what your situation is personally or financially, but GBBob is right this sounds like a situation that may be beyond this board. I just think you should see your sons as often as you possibly can which you may already be doing. And if she is keeping you from doing that, then you have other issues that go into the legal and therapist realm.