here it goes...

[onebadbeast]

Gambling Is Only A Problem When You Lose!!

Originally Posted by hockey2315

I find it funny how so many people on here - a horse racing/gambling site - are warning him about the dangers of gambling. . .

Experience...

[herkhorse]

I think I'll wait 'til my kids are at least 16 before I explain Crists Super Hi-5 ticket structuring. Though I have to admit I was taken back a bit when I turned on the Belmont yesterday and the first thing my 2 year old said was "oh is Big Truck running?" How she remembered him from Derby day is beyond me.

[hi_im_god]

Originally Posted by herkhorse

I think I'll wait 'til my kids are at least 16 before I explain Crists Super Hi-5 ticket structuring. Though I have to admit I was taken back a bit when I turned on the Belmont yesterday and the first thing my 2 year old said was "oh is Big Truck running?" How she remembered him from Derby day is beyond me.

she watched the tb derby without you.

[hockey2315]

Originally Posted by pgardn

Experience...

How would you know?

[Bigsmc]

Originally Posted by GBBob

Don't take this the wrong way, but you should share this with a professional therapist. There's nothing wrong with going in for a mental "check up" once in a while and you have some legit issues that friends, OTB or DT aren't going to fix. If money is tight, there should be therapists available through your insurance or even county, local hospitals, etc. All that should truly matter to you are your children and that should be the starting point for whatever decisions you make with their Mom.

You should also make sure your rights as a Dad are protected as she can't dictate when you see the kids like she is. And if that other stuff is is true, you have tough decisions to make about stepping in and protecting your children even if it risks alientating her. You don't have to be together to do what's best for the kids.

!!OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!

[MaTH716]

Some sort of therapy is definatley a good start. Just you or even better both of you together, if you still hope of making this work. I would also see what your rights are when it comes to the children. Maybe there is a chance that you can get custody (if that's what you want). But it sounds like she is going through some kind of phase, trying to catch up on everything that she missed to have 2 kids. Maybe that's why she has this love/hate thing for you. Deep down she probably cares for you, but then when she starts thinking about the sacrifices she made for you she gets angry. I don't know what kind of mother she is, so maybe she doesn't want custody (that's a longshot). You really need to just give her some space and hopefully she will grow out of this phase and realize what she has. I would make sure that there is no shady stuff going on when she is at home with the kids. Obviousally the kids will need some extra special with all that's going on, they are the #1 priority.
As for the OTB, it isn't a big deal if you are going there for personal relaxation and enjoyment. But to go there as a way out of dealing with the situation then I could see it being/turning into a problem.
But definiatley talk to a professional!
Good Luck.

[GBBob]

http://www.metanoia.org/imhs/

If you don't want to start face to face, maybe this is an option.

[geeker2]

Originally Posted by GBBob

http://www.metanoia.org/imhs/

If you don't want to start face to face, maybe this is an option.

or this www.redtube.com

[GBBob]

Originally Posted by geeker2

or this www.redtube.com

lol..

Originally Posted by hockey2315

How would you know?

Im old.

And went to Mexico to bet before racing was legal in Texas.
Mexico does not play fair btw.(cracks me up when people
think the payouts are wrong here)

[TheSpyder]

You obviously have no one to talk to or you would not be putting this out here. Therapy is a must and you only have to go once to see it helps. You're not looking for answers but rather trying to find our what your deepest feeling are. You're not going to find that here.

Go get help...sooner than later. You're both young. Not that I have any idea who you are or what your situation really is after reading for 5 minutes, but tell her she's right and it is over and worry about the kids. I think you've gotten 3-4 people that have said this. Right now she thinks she can have it both ways, having fun, and having you if she wants. Take the latter off the table as an option and see what happens.

That will be $50

Dr. Spyder

[GBBob]

Originally Posted by TheSpyder

You obviously have no one to talk to or you would not be putting this out here. Therapy is a must and you only have to go once to see it helps. You're not looking for answers but rather trying to find our what your deepest feeling are. You're not going to find that here.

Go get help...sooner than later. You're both young. Not that I have any idea who you are or what your situation really is after reading for 5 minutes, but tell her she's right and it is over and worry about the kids. I think you've gotten 3-4 people that have said this. Right now she thinks she can have it both ways, having fun, and having you if she wants. Take the latter off the table as an option and see what happens.

That will be $50

Dr. Spyder

Dear Dr Spyder..I got a horse going on Friday at AP..Can you please talk to her and get her in the right frame of mind.

Thank You

[Samarta]

Originally Posted by jcs11204

i am 23 years old.... i have 2 sons, 4 1/2 and 10 months old, there names are dominick and christian.... 1/12/04 and 8/13/07 are the bdays....
me and my x fiance had been together since 12 grade year of high school, she got pregnent right after and we stayed together and tryed making it work. no reasson to lie, we were not that close and if she did not get pregnent we would have more then likely never stayed together. on 1/12/08, my oldest sons birthday, she decided to end things, after 5 1/2 years. we agreed that i would stay living there to help with the kids, but i knew that was a impossible idea, and less then a month later i was gone. so now it has been almost 6 months, and it really hurts and sucks, i never thought i could care about anyone as much as i do her, and at this point i have no clue whats going to happen with us. one day she hates me, the next she is willing to work on things, i call her way to much... she says i push her away, then i stop and she gets mad that i dont call... i went from seeing my sons, everyday to now, maybe 2-3 times a week if i am lucky... that hurts bad. she says some mean things to me, things i could never imagine her saying, and she sometimes seems like shes totally done with me... she has changed so much in 6 months, she went from only wanting a family and only caring about me and the boys to what she is now.... she leaves are sons at home with her mom 2-3 times a week and goes out, shes drinking a little, and just making some bad decisions, including listening to hardcore rap music. its like the girl i loved for 5 years just hates me and has totally changed and i am having a real hard time dealing with it, honestly the only time i dont think about her is when i am at otb, even if im losing it just seems to relax me. still to this day i dont know the really reasson why we broke up, she is not the type to mess around, i know thats not it....she tells me it is lots of different reassons, and i just cant figure out how i should play it, i dont know if i should just back off, i am affraid if i do back off, that i will lose her forever... i dont know what to do

I haven't read all the responses and I don't need to to respond. This is as straight forward as I can be. Your issue is about one thing and one thing only....the well being of those kids. This isn't about you and your relationship. Whether you deal with it with family, a therapist, or the court system the welfare of those babies is the only thing you should consider. But you need to deal with it before someone deals with it for you. If she says one day she wants you and the next day she doesn't...guess what? She doesn't, she's just keeping you around for convenience. I could go on and on but I will only say forget the relationship and take care of those kids. If you don't they will be grown and gone before you know it and you will be sitting around trying to figure out where all the years went.

[geeker2]

Originally Posted by TheSpyder

You obviously have no one to talk to or you would not be putting this out here. Therapy is a must and you only have to go once to see it helps. You're not looking for answers but rather trying to find our what your deepest feeling are. You're not going to find that here.

Go get help...sooner than later. You're both young. Not that I have any idea who you are or what your situation really is after reading for 5 minutes, but tell her she's right and it is over and worry about the kids. I think you've gotten 3-4 people that have said this. Right now she thinks she can have it both ways, having fun, and having you if she wants. Take the latter off the table as an option and see what happens.

That will be $50

Dr. Spyder

Dr. Spyder..would you suggest that if she has a good looking sister..he could might consider take a run at her ?

[jcs11204]

Originally Posted by geeker2

Dr. Spyder..would you suggest that if she has a good looking sister..he could might consider take a run at her ?

she does not have a sister, but her mom is attractive, and latley i see her mom more then her.

[geeker2]

Originally Posted by jcs11204

she does not have a sister, but her mom is attractive, and latley i see her mom more then her.

I can't see how having sex with the Mom or sister could make the situation any worse...AND...it will probably help your win % at OTB.

Lots of upside ........

[IrishofNDMan]

Originally Posted by jcs11204

she does not have a sister, but her mom is attractive, and latley i see her mom more then her.

so the mom is attractive, the question is does she have money as well?

[GPK]

Cougar hunt....

[SentToStud]

my sister, my grandmother, my sister, ..... no wire hangers.