Spitzer

[Cajungator26]

Originally Posted by SCUDSBROTHER

PGRDN,porn is a substitute for being with other women.Some would say men that look at it aren't monogamous.Men are gunna want to look at more than one woman naked.Woman tolerate it better than actual sex,because it's doesn't have an emotional attachment to it.So,how many men just have sex with their wife?no porn,no strip clubs,no having intercourse with other women) I just ruled you out.You're (in this way) normal.If you're watching someone naked(other than your wife,)then you too enjoy pie(instead of cake)once in a while.That's what a male is wired to be like.Guys who watch porn aren't getting the emotional experience of being with another woman,but they are certainly tryin' to get the visual experience of being with another woman.This is what many women can't understand(why their man needs to look at anyone naked other than them.) It has nothing to do with them.It has to do with the need a male has to see something different(not necessarily better,but different.)

Sometimes men want to see other men naked too. And let me tell you... it's not just women who get upset because their partner is looking at another naked person. Men can get upset too.

[SCUDSBROTHER]

Originally Posted by Cajungator26

Sometimes men want to see other men naked too. And let me tell you... it's not just women who get upset because their partner is looking at another naked person. Men can get upset too.

It's normal for men to want to look at other people(whatever sex they choose ..o.k. Cajun) naked.Also,it's normal for them to want their regular partner to not do the same.That's the truth.That's the way men are wired.That's nature.Men try to overcome nature as best they can(porn or whatever.)

[Cajungator26]

Originally Posted by SCUDSBROTHER

It's normal for men to want to look at other people(whatever sex they choose ..o.k. Cajun) naked.Also,it's normal for them to want their regular partner to not do the same.That's the truth.That's the way men are wired.That's nature.Men try to overcome nature as best they can(porn or whatever.)

Just saying that women have to overcome their nature too, Scuds.

It really comes down to the kind of person you are. (Not you in particular, but you get what I'm saying.)

[SCUDSBROTHER]

Originally Posted by Cajungator26

Just saying that women have to overcome their nature too, Scuds.

It really comes down to the kind of person you are. (Not you in particular, but you get what I'm saying.)

I am not trying to say that no women want to have sex with someone that isn't their partner.The great majority of prostitution in this country involves men hiring prostitutes.There is some prostitution and porn geared to women.Not nearly as much as for men.I know my mom is like Zig.She can't see why a man would want to look at anyone other than their partner.She has no clue why men are that way.When I go to the house,my Dad is always trying to hide some internet PORN site or something from her.Old man seemed to get a thrill out of watching that thing where women broadcast the news while naked...I knew there was a market for that somewhere...LOL...There is a big difference between the 2.Very different drives.

[Danzig]

Originally Posted by SCUDSBROTHER

I am not trying to say that no women want to have sex with someone that isn't their partner.The great majority of prostitution in this country involves men hiring prostitutes.There is some prostitution and porn geared to women.Not nearly as much as for men.I know my mom is like Zig.She can't see why a man would want to look at anyone other than their partner.She has no clue why men are that way.When I go to the house,my Dad is always trying to hide some internet PORN site or something from her.Old man seemed to get a thrill out of watching that thing where women broadcast the news while naked...I knew there was a market for that somewhere...LOL...There is a big difference between the 2.Very different drives.

let's clarify a few things....
first of all, i know that men are very much into the visual, while women are not. that's why more often women want the light off, and men want the light on. as for porn, i wouldn't equate porn with cheating. we've gotten playboy for the length of our marriage-i joke that i read the articles, while he looks at the pics. a friend of mine (whose husband is her burden thankfully) asked me if i minded tony looking at playboy. i laughed and told her no-her hubby on the other hand gets old lady mags, fat lady mags, etc which we both find pretty horrifying....but anyway, that stuff is not a bother to me. we have stuff we watch together, but he doesn't do online stuff...

like nicole said, it's a choice. you don't put yourself in a bad situation, you don't encourage anyone who might show an interest, and you let people know off the bat that it's not your game. tony and i are proud of what we've got, and we want to keep it that way. a momentary thrill elsewhere just wouldn't be worth it.