Manners

[Exceller]

Originally Posted by Cajungator26

That is so true, Kev. I'm ashamed that I made the mistake already, but I can promise you that I won't make it again.

Didn't you listen to my lecture on women last week.

[GPK]

Originally Posted by Gander

Kev-

Society has changed and independence & greed has really taken over. Women want to have careers and arent as dependent on men anymore.

One huge difference with marriage in my opinion is people arent as willing to work at marriage anymore. One argument or difference and its over. Its so easy and so cheap to get a divorce now a days, its unreal.

I know my parents werent the happiest couple in the world but they stuck it out because of their kids and because they grew up in an era where divorce was taboo.

I have split thoughts on this. I dont think 2 people should stick out a marriage if they are unhappy solely because they dont want their kids to have to go through their parents divorcing. But another side of me thinks people get married for all the wrong reasons and are way to quick to give up on trying to work things out.

Yeah Tim, noone fights for their marraige anymore. I admit I was quick to leave my marraige, but I think cases of infidelity are a valid reason. Some people are able to look the other way, but I aint one of those people when it comes to that type of behavior.

[Gander]

Cajun- Not knowing the specifics of your situation, I can say that getting a divorce is not a mistake. If only my parents had gotten one 10 years ago when things went bad, my entire family would be way better off.

[GPK]

Originally Posted by Cajungator26

That is so true, Kev. I'm ashamed that I made the mistake already, but I can promise you that I won't make it again.

Hey babe, I aint proud of being divorced by the time I was 30, but I can hold my head high, knowing I was a good husband and stepfather and did nothing to compromise the marraige.

[Exceller]

People get married too soon. Men should wait until they are 40 and women 30. 10 years difference is what all marriages need.

[Cajungator26]

Originally Posted by Exceller

Didn't you listen to my lecture on women last week.

I am a female. LOL I was married to a guy who enjoyed the cheating/partying life. It wasn't for me.

[Exceller]

Originally Posted by Cajungator26

I am a female. LOL I was married to a guy who enjoyed the cheating/partying life. It wasn't for me.

What cheating/partying life? Just marry an older guy and you will be happy.

[Cajungator26]

Originally Posted by Gander

Cajun- Not knowing the specifics of your situation, I can say that getting a divorce is not a mistake. If only my parents had gotten one 10 years ago when things went bad, my entire family would be way better off.

Getting married to someone who didn't love me was the mistake. I wish I was the type of person that could have just sat back and been a glutton for punishment, but I couldn't handle it. I figured if he was going to be out until 3AM every morning drunk and cheating on me, I might as well be a single mom. He's remarried now to a girl who doesn't put up with ANYTHING. She doesn't let him go out at all with his friends and she checks his voice mail, etc. That's not my cup of tea, but that was the kind of girl he needed to be married to.

[Cajungator26]

Originally Posted by Exceller

What cheating/partying life? Just marry an older guy and you will be happy.

My boyfriend now is 38 (I'll be 26 on Monday.) A 13 year difference is enough, I think.

[Exceller]

Originally Posted by Cajungator26

My boyfriend now is 38 (I'll be 26 on Monday.) A 13 year difference is enough, I think.

Perfect age difference. I am a guy and I can admit it, women are about 10 yrs more mature than guys there own age. Just a fact of life.

[Crown@club]

My wife's cousin had been dating her current husband since 2002. From 2000 to 2004, there have been lots of marriages in the family. She got the bug to do it just because she saw the fun and everything else that went with it. Heck I want mine back. The day just came and went..(i wished that night lasted forever).

Well she's spoiled. Within 6 months after her wedding, she wants to do other opportunities. She doesn't want her marriage. He is fighting hard, but figuring out she is in her own world. Her mother paid for pretty big size wedding. Add insult to the marriage and to the family I believe, she brought a new guy home for Christmas, a month after the split, and stayed in the same bed at her mothers.

[GPK]

Originally Posted by Crown@club

My wife's cousin had been dating her current husband since 2002. From 2000 to 2004, there have been lots of marriages in the family. She got the bug to do it just because she saw the fun and everything else that went with it. Heck I want mine back. The day just came and went..(i wished that night lasted forever).

Well she's spoiled. Within 6 months after her wedding, she wants to do other opportunities. She doesn't want her marriage. He is fighting hard, but figuring out she is in her own world. Her mother paid for pretty big size wedding. Add insult to the marriage and to the family I believe, she brought a new guy home for Christmas, a month after the split, and stayed in the same bed at her mothers.

Boggles my mind to no end the amount of selfishness some people display.

[Buffymommy]

Originally Posted by Cajungator26

Getting married to someone who didn't love me was the mistake. I wish I was the type of person that could have just sat back and been a glutton for punishment, but I couldn't handle it. I figured if he was going to be out until 3AM every morning drunk and cheating on me, I might as well be a single mom. He's remarried now to a girl who doesn't put up with ANYTHING. She doesn't let him go out at all with his friends and she checks his voice mail, etc. That's not my cup of tea, but that was the kind of girl he needed to be married to.

I am a firm believer in what comes around goes around. Gotta admit, that is no kinda life that guy has now. Feels kinda good doesn't it? Got an ex (boyfriend THANK GOD WE NEVER MARRIED) that is the same way. Cheated on me left and right. Left him when I had proof. He got engaged about six months after we split. I got married about three years later. He still isn't married and very unhappy. Hee hee. Do unto others as you'd have done to you is a nice motto to live by.

By the way my hubby is only five years older than me. But we are older than you so his maturity set in before I met him nine years ago.

[2Hot4TV]

Great, fine so your life is headed in the right direction, So let's get back to NAME CALLING the name callers. Blocky bashed Califonia and I invited him to visit. I said he would like all the Democrates and life style of Melrose Blvd in Hollywierd. He popped a gasket and said I was calling him a H o m o. This was not the case. I just suggested his hate for California could be based on a fear of liking the life style of Hollywood. I never called him a name,,,,,, I don't think I did. Sorry for hurting your FEELINGS, Blocky.

[Buffymommy]

Originally Posted by GPK

Boggles my mind to no end the amount of selfishness some people display.

It is very scary to know that that there are people out there like this.

[whorstman]

That is exactly why I havn't gotton married yet. I will do it one time and I will be sure it is right the 1st time. I have seen it happen with my friends and it never ends pretty. I did not want that to happen to me. I hear my friends complain about thier "baby momma" drama and I just have to thank myself for not falling into that. I want to ask them, why? Why did you produce a child with someone who has no ambition and will never amount to much. Duh, now they will be forever linked to them. It goes the other way as well. I have dated women w/ kids and I don't think 1 single one of the fathers are worth a crap. It kills me to see a father that considers thier child a burden. They dread every other weekend when they have to take them for a few days. Then they take them and sit em in front of the playstation all weekend to keep them occupied. I want to have a child myself and when I do, I will be there every step of the way, just like my parents were.

[Exceller]

Originally Posted by Secretariat

i would expect that a certain amount of friendly name calling ang jabbing would be allowed.

but at what point does absolute disrespect and name calling go over the line.

is activly seeking to ruin another reputation
still considered correct behavior here.

disrespect at the personal level should be addressed and we should have some rules.

if not we are all just back to the same spot we started.

Dude, as long as the one guy who makes 10% of the posts on the entire site is going to act like a little kid with no manners there is nothing you can do. That guy is super insecure and that is what you have to live with.

[Cajungator26]

Originally Posted by Exceller

Dude, as long as the one guy who makes 10% of the posts on the entire site is going to act like a little kid with no manners there is nothing you can do. That guy is super insecure and that is what you have to live with.

Go back and read Paul's posts before you comment on this particular thread. The original post that Paul made in this thread was hypocritical beyond belief.

[Exceller]

Originally Posted by Cajungator26

Go back and read Paul's posts before you comment on this particular thread. The original post that Paul made in this thread was hypocritical beyond belief.

Probably, but Mr. I am Never Wrong and Everyone is an Idiot, has zero manners.

[Buffymommy]

Originally Posted by Exceller

Dude, as long as the one guy who makes 10% of the posts on the entire site is going to act like a little kid with no manners there is nothing you can do. That guy is super insecure and that is what you have to live with.

He isn't the only one on this board that way. We all just have to learn to play nice and quit the name calling. It isn't nice and it hurts people's feelings. Why this is such a hard concept to grasp for some on this board is beyond me.