Ever been tired of being married???????

[packerbacker7964]

I'm finding it harder everyday in my life to be married. I keep finding things in our marriage that I don't like and dweeling on them really hard. She's really done no wrong to me just keeps getting on my nerves. I like to play softball on Friday night and like to wtach the other games I'm not involved. She gets mad when I want to hang out when My games are over. She wants to be with me all of the damn time also. 24/7 when I'm not working. I tell her to go out with her friends and have fun but oh no she doesn't want to be with them. People need to be away from one another every once in a while. I've told her I'll send you and 1 or 2 of your friends to a weekend Spa just so I can have some time to be alone. I work all week long 50-60 hours a week and 6-7 days a week. When I get off I don't want to go some where every weekend. Sometimes lets just stay home. NNNNNNNOOOOOO she's got places to go and people to see. I love her to death but I'm starting to want to be single so I don't have to please her all of the time. Sorry for the rant guys have a good week.

[Danzig]

no, not tired of it. it can be difficult sometimes, if you start to feel crowded. don't dwell on the negative PB, if you do, you'll FEEL negative. a lot of your feelings are based on how you perceive things--if your perception of your wife is that she's a drag, she WILL BE a drag. be patient, it will pass. meantime, don't tell her you're sick of her--that won't help. hang in there, it'll get better! also, let her know that sometimes you just need downtime, let her know that you need to stay home and relax once in a while. don't just keep your yap shut and suffer in silence, and allow resentment to build. heck, tell her you're not feeling well at the very least, and not up to it.

good luck!

[GPK]

Been both married and single.

They each have their good and bad times. Its all in what you really prefer.

[The Bid]

Sounds like a miserable situation to be in. Validates my opinion on never getting married.

[Hickory Hill Hoff]

No.....




.....comment!

[Cajungator26]

Originally Posted by The Bid

Sounds like a miserable situation to be in. Validates my opinion on never getting married.

I seriously have no comment to this. Stop being with a gold digging bitch and you'd have no problem.

[Cajungator26]

Originally Posted by packerbacker7964

I'm finding it harder everyday in my life to be married. I keep finding things in our marriage that I don't like and dweeling on them really hard. She's really done no wrong to me just keeps getting on my nerves. I like to play softball on Friday night and like to wtach the other games I'm not involved. She gets mad when I want to hang out when My games are over. She wants to be with me all of the damn time also. 24/7 when I'm not working. I tell her to go out with her friends and have fun but oh no she doesn't want to be with them. People need to be away from one another every once in a while. I've told her I'll send you and 1 or 2 of your friends to a weekend Spa just so I can have some time to be alone. I work all week long 50-60 hours a week and 6-7 days a week. When I get off I don't want to go some where every weekend. Sometimes lets just stay home. NNNNNNNOOOOOO she's got places to go and people to see. I love her to death but I'm starting to want to be single so I don't have to please her all of the time. Sorry for the rant guys have a good week.

Three words for you (and yes I've been married and am now divorced):

Communication is key.

If you don't communicate this with her, she'll never get it.

[timmgirvan]

Packer: For some reason which escapes me, this woman loves you! If you pleased her all the time, then she wouldn't mind sharing you with "the boys" once a week. I know that you're still dealing with or "in denial" about your diabetes,but wanting to "get more space from the wife" isn't the answer! How much influence do these knuckleheads you play Ball with have on you? Do they razz you about going home with the wife? Here's a clue...what is the status of their lives? I really want this to work out for you PB, but 1 day you'll wake up and be all alone and you'll regret splitting with your wife over this. Get counseling. If the counseling works, one day you'll look back on this time and laugh!

[Samarta]

Originally Posted by packerbacker7964

I'm finding it harder everyday in my life to be married. I keep finding things in our marriage that I don't like and dweeling on them really hard. She's really done no wrong to me just keeps getting on my nerves. I like to play softball on Friday night and like to wtach the other games I'm not involved. She gets mad when I want to hang out when My games are over. She wants to be with me all of the damn time also. 24/7 when I'm not working. I tell her to go out with her friends and have fun but oh no she doesn't want to be with them. People need to be away from one another every once in a while. I've told her I'll send you and 1 or 2 of your friends to a weekend Spa just so I can have some time to be alone. I work all week long 50-60 hours a week and 6-7 days a week. When I get off I don't want to go some where every weekend. Sometimes lets just stay home. NNNNNNNOOOOOO she's got places to go and people to see. I love her to death but I'm starting to want to be single so I don't have to please her all of the time. Sorry for the rant guys have a good week.

My take on this is there is something else driving your "feelings." What has changed in your home life? You know it's a compromise. You like to play softball, you go play softball, but when you are finished playing you pack it up and leave. It's not that hard, if you want to be in and respect the relationship. But do yourself a favor, don't start finding reasons in her that you shouldn't be in the relationship. If you are having issues, it's not her fault. But you have to sit down and talk about it. And when I say talk, I mean lay it out there, get it all out, and get over yourself.

[Mortimer]

Originally Posted by Cajungator26

Three words for you (and yes I've been married and am now divorced):

Communication is key.

If you don't communicate this with her, she'll never get it.

This is so true.

[The Bid]

Packer, it sounds like you are trying to change a lot of things in your life. Your weight, your wife, etc. Maybe you arent happy with yourself and its stressing your relationship with your woman. Not that there is anything wrong with wanting to lose weight, and wanting a different woman, but maybe your main issue is with yourself.


Cajun, shes a very nice girl, just needs to be tightened up once in a while like most women.

[packerbacker7964]

Yeah she wants to move back home to Arkanstone(sorry Danzig) but we left that life behind us. She's in and out of the hospital while we live in Arky. She has heart problems and ask Danzig the summers are brutal there on people with heart problems. She fails to see that hese same people wouldn't even come to see her while she was there in Childern's Hospital much less give a $hit about her. We've lived in Michigan going on 8 years now and only one week's time at Ann Arbor. Lived marreid in Arkanstone for alittle over2 years and too many stays to count. There is more to it than the eye just like most of you said but emotional turns to physical strees after a while. I always ask her what she wants to do and she says nothing but I get blamed for her boring life. I tell her that I wasn't put on this earth to entertain her. If woman could just learn men can't take hints, beating around the bush or guessing. Men say what they want women just keep moving what they want around just to see if we'll come running. Well I'm tired of it.

[Cajungator26]

Originally Posted by packerbacker7964

Yeah she wants to move back home to Arkanstone(sorry Danzig) but we left that life behind us. She's in and out of the hospital while we live in Arky. She has heart problems and ask Danzig the summers are brutal there on people with heart problems. She fails to see that hese same people wouldn't even come to see her while she was there in Childern's Hospital much less give a $hit about her. We've lived in Michigan going on 8 years now and only one week's time at Ann Arbor. Lived marreid in Arkanstone for alittle over2 years and too many stays to count. There is more to it than the eye just like most of you said but emotional turns to physical strees after a while. I always ask her what she wants to do and she says nothing but I get blamed for her boring life. I tell her that I wasn't put on this earth to entertain her. If woman could just learn men can't take hints, beating around the bush or guessing. Men say what they want women just keep moving what they want around just to see if we'll come running. Well I'm tired of it.

SOME men can figure things out on their own... most can't. It used to bother me that I had to ask for something when it was plainly obvious what I needed. If you don't care enough about your wife to read what she's saying to you, then cut her a break. Seriously. As for you being her source of entertainment, you're right... you shouldn't have to be but maybe... just maybe... you'd want to be. Unfortunately, I'm getting the impression that you've already quit and trust me, she knows it.

So now we come to the real question... do you love her? Did you mean what you said to her when you said "I do?" It's not looking like it. I realize it takes two to tango, but if you two aren't a team, your marriage is going to fail. I guarantee it.

[Rileyoriley]

Originally Posted by DaHoss9698

Here's my advice. Go see a marriage counselor, not Derby Trail.

Couldn't have said it better myself.

[Cajungator26]

Originally Posted by DaHoss9698

Here's my advice. Go see a marriage counselor, not Derby Trail.

GREAT piece of advice.

[timmgirvan]

Originally Posted by Cajungator26

SOME men can figure things out on their own... most can't. It used to bother me that I had to ask for something when it was plainly obvious what I needed. If you don't care enough about your wife to read what she's saying to you, then cut her a break. Seriously. As for you being her source of entertainment, you're right... you shouldn't have to be but maybe... just maybe... you'd want to be. Unfortunately, I'm getting the impression that you've already quit and trust me, she knows it.

So now we come to the real question... do you love her? Did you mean what you said to her when you said "I do?" It's not looking like it. I realize it takes two to tango, but if you two aren't a team, your marriage is going to fail. I guarantee it.

bingo!

[The Bid]

Heres my advice. Start hiding assets and set up a bank account in someone elses name and start moving money

[onebadbeast]

I Hear You Loud And Clear. I Was Married To Alice Kramden, Complete With Her Mother. She Was Always There Everytime I Got Home. Can U Go Around Outside And Smoke, Can You Do This, Do That, Came From Her Mouth. As Far As Wives, No Gambling Etc. But She Never Saw A Paycheck From Me.

[Danzig]

Originally Posted by packerbacker7964

Yeah she wants to move back home to Arkanstone(sorry Danzig) but we left that life behind us. She's in and out of the hospital while we live in Arky. She has heart problems and ask Danzig the summers are brutal there on people with heart problems. She fails to see that hese same people wouldn't even come to see her while she was there in Childern's Hospital much less give a $hit about her. We've lived in Michigan going on 8 years now and only one week's time at Ann Arbor. Lived marreid in Arkanstone for alittle over2 years and too many stays to count. There is more to it than the eye just like most of you said but emotional turns to physical strees after a while. I always ask her what she wants to do and she says nothing but I get blamed for her boring life. I tell her that I wasn't put on this earth to entertain her. If woman could just learn men can't take hints, beating around the bush or guessing. Men say what they want women just keep moving what they want around just to see if we'll come running. Well I'm tired of it.

sounds as tho she isn't happy there, and perhaps the last happy time she remembers is here. and yes, absolutely the summer is brutal here.

you guys need to sit and have a serious discussion, more than one actually. don't get emotional or accusatory, you've got to sort this out. as for happiness, everyone is responsible for their own happiness, no one can make you happy.

counselling may be in order--altho finding the right one can be difficult. we never had to go that route, but i do know that some make a living by choosing a side, and making one spouse out to be the bad guy, while the other laps up being the victim.

do you have children? is so, i think you need to try that much harder to work things out. it doesn't sound irretrievable to me at this point. but if you two keep going this way, it could turn out to be.


and my best advice, don't listen to the bid. far more to marriage than assets. also, things may look bleak NOW. but if you guys end it, that will be even more bleak.

some say you shouldn't get married, as how can you commit to a feeling. it's more than that, you're committing to each other thru thick and thin. you guys both need to focus on that, and on the other person, not yourself. don't get selfish now, this is exactly the wrong time to do that. not saying be a doormat by any means.

good luck packer. the girl you love is there--it's worth fighting for!

[Mortimer]

Originally Posted by DaHoss9698

Here's my advice.


I got ya advise right here pal.




Go see a marriage counselor,


Yup...they do it best .....saw me a lassince plate what said that.





not Derby Trail.

In all seriousness...










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