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Originally Posted by packerbacker7964
Yeah she wants to move back home to Arkanstone(sorry Danzig) but we left that life behind us. She's in and out of the hospital while we live in Arky. She has heart problems and ask Danzig the summers are brutal there on people with heart problems. She fails to see that hese same people wouldn't even come to see her while she was there in Childern's Hospital much less give a $hit about her. We've lived in Michigan going on 8 years now and only one week's time at Ann Arbor. Lived marreid in Arkanstone for alittle over2 years and too many stays to count. There is more to it than the eye just like most of you said but emotional turns to physical strees after a while. I always ask her what she wants to do and she says nothing but I get blamed for her boring life. I tell her that I wasn't put on this earth to entertain her. If woman could just learn men can't take hints, beating around the bush or guessing. Men say what they want women just keep moving what they want around just to see if we'll come running. Well I'm tired of it.
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sounds as tho she isn't happy there, and perhaps the last happy time she remembers is here. and yes, absolutely the summer is brutal here.
you guys need to sit and have a serious discussion, more than one actually. don't get emotional or accusatory, you've got to sort this out. as for happiness, everyone is responsible for their own happiness, no one can make you happy.
counselling may be in order--altho finding the right one can be difficult. we never had to go that route, but i do know that some make a living by choosing a side, and making one spouse out to be the bad guy, while the other laps up being the victim.
do you have children? is so, i think you need to try that much harder to work things out. it doesn't sound irretrievable to me at this point. but if you two keep going this way, it could turn out to be.
and my best advice, don't listen to the bid. far more to marriage than assets. also, things may look bleak NOW. but if you guys end it, that will be even more bleak.
some say you shouldn't get married, as how can you commit to a feeling. it's more than that, you're committing to each other thru thick and thin. you guys both need to focus on that, and on the other person, not yourself. don't get selfish now, this is exactly the wrong time to do that. not saying be a doormat by any means.
good luck packer. the girl you love is there--it's worth fighting for!