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Originally Posted by MaTH716
Sound advive Dani, but unfortunately the deck is stacked against them. I really think the whole age think is the biggest obstacle. Both of them are going to have to make huge sacrifices at very young ages. Eventually one of them is going to resent or just want to have to stop sacrificing things that normal people there ages do. Does anyone remember what they were doing between ages 17-25? I know I wasn't mature, mentally tough (those with kids understand this) or smart enough to have to take care of someone else (I'm not sure that I'm even mature or smart enough now).
Then there is the whole issue of the relationship between both of them. I really hope that it's a good one, because children will definately test the strength of it. My wife had a friend that had children very early in her twenties. She was married, but when she got into her thirties she had been a mother and a wife for over ten years. She started to realize what she had sacrified and missed. She started to go out (whoring it up) and eventually found a boyfriend. Soon after, she divorced her husband and moved with the children. The point is that this was a girl who never really got a chance to expierience her youth and started to regret it. When you get married at such a young age, you would think that there is a point or there are times you start thinking about what you have missed and what you have given up. They really never had a chance to expierence what should be their fun years (21-26). Go and do what you want and when you want to do it. Go away with friends and so on. Some people just can't/or don't want to handle that and eventually give up what they have and go do what they have missed. That's what happened to my wife's friend.
Then possibly there is the money issue. It's an issue that everone deals with. I don't know the financial details about the couple so I wish them luck with that issue.
I wish them lots of luck. It's tremdous blessing to have a child, but it's not easy. Just like marriage it takes love work and lots of sacrifice. I wish the whole family all the best.
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yeah, i know it can be tough. i was 18 and tony 21 when we got married. sometimes i look back and wonder how the hell we made it this far. for us it worked-but like i told my kids, we're the exception, not the rule. i tried to get my oldest to wait, but that advice fell on deaf ears. he's 22, and she's 18. i told him to at least wait a while before having kids.