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Originally Posted by pgardn
Most parents want their children to have a happy marriage I would think.
Imo the problem occurs when some ethnic groups have cultural differences that do not fit well with other ethnic groups.
A small example:
I will make a large generalization.
In the Hispanic culture, the male is the head of the family, the dominant family member. In many cases I have noticed it is OK (even expected) for the male to cheat on his spouse, but not the other way around (probably true for Caucasians to a lesser degree imo). The women are expected to be very subservient also. I personally would not want my daughter to marry into that sort of situation. One in which she was considered a vastly unequal partner. The COLOR has nothing to do with it.
So are we talking ethnic CULTURAL differences or just purely ethnic COLOR differences?
And yes. If 50% of the parents in the US would not want their children to marry someone they felt great affection for, and had a great deal in common with, based purely on ethnic color diffences, then 50% of the US is racist by my definition.
Maybe I have a skewed view. One of my best friend's daughter has an African American boyfriend from Britian. They have a great deal in common, appear to love each other, and plan to be married. I know the boy well and he is a great kid. The girl I have known since she was a wee lass and I trust her judgement. They know if they have kids they will face problems from people that are intolerant. I wish they were the same color because of the intolerance that exists. But they are not... So they forge ahead.
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You asked if we are talking about ethnic cultural differences or purely color cultural differences. I don't know how you can distinguish between the two. They are inter-connected. Why are most people prejudice about a certain race in the first place? It is usually because of their stereotypical views about people of that race. They're not just prejudiced of the group because of the group's skin color. They are prejudiced against the group because they think that people with that particular skin color have certain negative cultural characteristics.
That is pretty much what racism is. It is disliking people of a certian race because of the belief that most or all of the people in that race have certain negative characteristics.