We get married because for so many years, here in our country--and throughout the world, it was, and still remains to many, what is natural, what is expected of us.
Regardless of what one may project or maintain, solitary living and the constant aloneness of it isn't natural. It goes against our flock and our nuturing instincts as humans. We are not unlike the four legged creatures that walk with us each day, residing on this planet. People need the company of others, if not in marriage, then in relationships as lovers, or as friends. Sometimes, both, if one is exceedingly fortunate.
Such relationships are wonderful in so many ways because they allow our finest gifts to be shared, our thoughtfulness, our interests, our desires, our joys, sorrows, and our difficulties. Throughout this daily living thing though, if one gets to the point that they find themselves "having too work to hard at it" the relationship becomes endangered. And in all liklihood, it will wane, and fail.
In the meantime, we keep trying because it is natural to us--to love and to be loved--whether we are married in church or living in partnership with the individual that we chose, that one individual who saw something special in us.
These relationships work as long as we believe in one another, and sometimes when they end, we are blessed because, though we may part, there will always be a bond. And if we both realize and remember what we had, we know, beyond all doubt, we will always be friends. Always.
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