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Originally Posted by Downthestretch55
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Liked that one..
On my other forum there are a few out of control posters that like to use name calling....One of the 'good' guys wrote this about namecalling...
The process of name-calling is typically based upon feeling not OK, and name-callers are trying to make themselves feel more powerful by using the process. If I call you a name and get you upset, then I temporarily feel more powerful because I had a powerful effect upon you. My self-esteem rises at your expense. I project my unhappiness on to you and you take it on if you allow yourself to be upset. If you do not get upset at my attempt, then I cannot dump my original unhappiness on you. Then I am left not only with my failure to successfully dump it on you but also with my original unhappiness to boot. Thus, if you're successful at being unbothered by my words, then I wind up more unhappy; and I'll probably quickly stop those words. This is a key element to understand, that name-callers will usually feel worse if you do not react to their name-calling.
Someone call you "liberal scumbag" or "fukkin moron"? Whenever you hear such a name directed your way, thoughts along the lines of, "The name-caller is feeling weak right now." Another useful self-thought is, "Whatever people say about me says nothing about me but a lot about them."