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santana 03-21-2009 05:19 PM

Way too funny Drugs......except the child support thing really can be a problem for him..wish him luck....maybe you can hit a pik 6 for him to get him going in the right direction with the payments.

philcski 03-21-2009 10:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Cajungator26
1,3,4,2

I laughed... very hard



Drugs congrats on being an uncle.... i think

Danzig 03-21-2009 10:21 PM

did they name the little bundle of joy yet? and i don't believe i offered congrats either, so congrats all around.

drugs, my best advice (from a woman married happily 23 years) is to tell the two of them to always put the other person first. and for gods sake, don't treat a total stranger better than you would your better half-it kills me when people talk to their husband or wife like they're an idiot.

oh, and you should tell your child 'no' 6 times for every one time you say yes. good recipe to avoid a spoiled brat, who most assuredly won't get everything they want when they grow up. and it certainly won't kill them to be told no.

altho they think it will.

AeWingnut 03-21-2009 10:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Danzig
did they name the little bundle of joy yet? and i don't believe i offered congrats either, so congrats all around.

drugs, my best advice (from a woman married happily 23 years) is to tell the two of them to always put the other person first. and for gods sake, don't treat a total stranger better than you would your better half-it kills me when people talk to their husband or wife like they're an idiot.

oh, and you should tell your child 'no' 6 times for every one time you say yes. good recipe to avoid a spoiled brat, who most assuredly won't get everything they want when they grow up. and it certainly won't kill them to be told no.

altho they think it will.

They know each other than they know a total stranger. Maybe they are an idiot. ;)

Danzig 03-22-2009 12:05 AM

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Originally Posted by AeWingnut
They know each other than they know a total stranger. Maybe they are an idiot. ;)

i just think that many people believe they can treat their partner like crap- as tho the same rules of civility don't apply. that's one way to ruin a good relationship.

AeWingnut 03-22-2009 05:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Danzig
i just think that many people believe they can treat their partner like crap- as tho the same rules of civility don't apply. that's one way to ruin a good relationship.

yes, you can't love somebody you don't respect.

I remember when my friend's wife didn't know me all that well and she would be nice to him when I was around. I would leave and she would turn into hell beast. He would confide in me that she was terrible and I didn't see it.

Then she got comfortable with my presense and wouldn't wait for me to leave to turn into uber bitch. Screamin at the top of her lungs over nothing.

The look I got when I said, "hey man lets go to the bar and watch the game"

I don't see either one of them now I wonder why that is


hahahahahaha

MaTH716 03-22-2009 09:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Danzig
did they name the little bundle of joy yet? and i don't believe i offered congrats either, so congrats all around.

drugs, my best advice (from a woman married happily 23 years) is to tell the two of them to always put the other person first. and for gods sake, don't treat a total stranger better than you would your better half-it kills me when people talk to their husband or wife like they're an idiot.
oh, and you should tell your child 'no' 6 times for every one time you say yes. good recipe to avoid a spoiled brat, who most assuredly won't get everything they want when they grow up. and it certainly won't kill them to be told no.

altho they think it will.

Sound advive Dani, but unfortunately the deck is stacked against them. I really think the whole age think is the biggest obstacle. Both of them are going to have to make huge sacrifices at very young ages. Eventually one of them is going to resent or just want to have to stop sacrificing things that normal people there ages do. Does anyone remember what they were doing between ages 17-25? I know I wasn't mature, mentally tough (those with kids understand this) or smart enough to have to take care of someone else (I'm not sure that I'm even mature or smart enough now).
Then there is the whole issue of the relationship between both of them. I really hope that it's a good one, because children will definately test the strength of it. My wife had a friend that had children very early in her twenties. She was married, but when she got into her thirties she had been a mother and a wife for over ten years. She started to realize what she had sacrified and missed. She started to go out (whoring it up) and eventually found a boyfriend. Soon after, she divorced her husband and moved with the children. The point is that this was a girl who never really got a chance to expierience her youth and started to regret it. When you get married at such a young age, you would think that there is a point or there are times you start thinking about what you have missed and what you have given up. They really never had a chance to expierence what should be their fun years (21-26). Go and do what you want and when you want to do it. Go away with friends and so on. Some people just can't/or don't want to handle that and eventually give up what they have and go do what they have missed. That's what happened to my wife's friend.
Then possibly there is the money issue. It's an issue that everone deals with. I don't know the financial details about the couple so I wish them luck with that issue.
I wish them lots of luck. It's tremdous blessing to have a child, but it's not easy. Just like marriage it takes love work and lots of sacrifice. I wish the whole family all the best.

The Indomitable DrugS 03-22-2009 09:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Danzig
did they name the little bundle of joy yet?

Really gay name .. Madison Rose.

If I ever have a kid - regardless of gender - it's getting named Sylvestor Stallone or Spartacus Caesar .. or something to make it sound like a hardass.

The Indomitable DrugS 03-22-2009 10:00 AM

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Originally Posted by santana
Way too funny Drugs......except the child support thing really can be a problem for him..wish him luck....maybe you can hit a pik 6 for him to get him going in the right direction with the payments.

A couple of his concerts this summer are going to be in North Carolina.

I know he's supposed to be getting married this summer after he finishes 11th grade and all - but maybe we can talk him into giving the baby mama a boot and hook him up with North Carolina's own KYRIM.

Not just a future heart doctor she is ... but also NC's best horsemen. :$: :$: :$:

Danzig 03-22-2009 11:08 AM

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Originally Posted by The Indomitable DrugS
A couple of his concerts this summer are going to be in North Carolina.

I know he's supposed to be getting married this summer after he finishes 11th grade and all - but maybe we can talk him into giving the baby mama a boot and hook him up with North Carolina's own KYRIM.

Not just a future heart doctor she is ... but also NC's best horsemen. :$: :$: :$:


it just keeps getting better and better..

Danzig 03-22-2009 11:10 AM

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Originally Posted by MaTH716
Sound advive Dani, but unfortunately the deck is stacked against them. I really think the whole age think is the biggest obstacle. Both of them are going to have to make huge sacrifices at very young ages. Eventually one of them is going to resent or just want to have to stop sacrificing things that normal people there ages do. Does anyone remember what they were doing between ages 17-25? I know I wasn't mature, mentally tough (those with kids understand this) or smart enough to have to take care of someone else (I'm not sure that I'm even mature or smart enough now).
Then there is the whole issue of the relationship between both of them. I really hope that it's a good one, because children will definately test the strength of it. My wife had a friend that had children very early in her twenties. She was married, but when she got into her thirties she had been a mother and a wife for over ten years. She started to realize what she had sacrified and missed. She started to go out (whoring it up) and eventually found a boyfriend. Soon after, she divorced her husband and moved with the children. The point is that this was a girl who never really got a chance to expierience her youth and started to regret it. When you get married at such a young age, you would think that there is a point or there are times you start thinking about what you have missed and what you have given up. They really never had a chance to expierence what should be their fun years (21-26). Go and do what you want and when you want to do it. Go away with friends and so on. Some people just can't/or don't want to handle that and eventually give up what they have and go do what they have missed. That's what happened to my wife's friend.
Then possibly there is the money issue. It's an issue that everone deals with. I don't know the financial details about the couple so I wish them luck with that issue.
I wish them lots of luck. It's tremdous blessing to have a child, but it's not easy. Just like marriage it takes love work and lots of sacrifice. I wish the whole family all the best.

yeah, i know it can be tough. i was 18 and tony 21 when we got married. sometimes i look back and wonder how the hell we made it this far. for us it worked-but like i told my kids, we're the exception, not the rule. i tried to get my oldest to wait, but that advice fell on deaf ears. he's 22, and she's 18. i told him to at least wait a while before having kids.

AeWingnut 03-22-2009 12:50 PM

I miss KYRIM


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