Damn, Nicole and I BOTH had a sty?

You girls be in denial all you want....;)

Did not wanna see what I cant touch right in front
of me when I was single. I wanted the go sign.
I never liked stip clubs when I was single.
Have not been in a strip club since my brother
was married 23 years ago. Was totally blottoed,
can barely remember.

Porn.
Yep.
Steve introduced me to that today.
Porn is too easy. Its everywhere.
It comes at you.

And I am telling you Scuds I have
never been with another woman, EVER in 21 years.
I dont feel like
some sort of freaky Saint. Why do you make
people who are monogomous out to be
some sort of oddity?

How do you know I am atypical? Do you know
a bunch of men that might lie about encounters?

Have I ever thought about what it would
be like... yes, absolutely. Do I AVOID situations
that could bring about encounters, absolutley.
I dont like these games. I hate the
conferences in the summer when there are an
obvious group of people that are looking for encounters
(some just because they are away from home)
But I have seen an equal number that want none of it,
so I hang out with them if out of town.

Are there any women I know at work that would
go at it... yes, very clearly. Honestly though,
my wife is much more
attractive. Much more.
Maybe the problem is my wife is more attractive
to me than the majority of women I see.
Bunch of ugly women in Texas...like England.

I dont think I am some sort of pious freak.
I dont get it. I have at least 5 friends that
are married that are just like me. I would
wager they have not had encounters.

PGRDN,porn is a substitute for being with other women.Some would say men that look at it aren't monogamous.Men are gunna want to look at more than one woman naked.Woman tolerate it better than actual sex,because it's doesn't have an emotional attachment to it.So,how many men just have sex with their wife?no porn,no strip clubs,no having intercourse with other women) I just ruled you out.You're (in this way) normal.If you're watching someone naked(other than your wife,)then you too enjoy pie(instead of cake)once in a while.That's what a male is wired to be like.Guys who watch porn aren't getting the emotional experience of being with another woman,but they are certainly tryin' to get the visual experience of being with another woman.This is what many women can't understand(why their man needs to look at anyone naked other than them.) It has nothing to do with them.It has to do with the need a male has to see something different(not necessarily better,but different.)

Sometimes men want to see other men naked too. ;) And let me tell you... it's not just women who get upset because their partner is looking at another naked person. Men can get upset too.

It's normal for men to want to look at other people(whatever sex they choose ..o.k. Cajun) naked.Also,it's normal for them to want their regular partner to not do the same.That's the truth.That's the way men are wired.That's nature.Men try to overcome nature as best they can(porn or whatever.)

Just saying that women have to overcome their nature too, Scuds. :p

It really comes down to the kind of person you are. (Not you in particular, but you get what I'm saying.)

I am not trying to say that no women want to have sex with someone that isn't their partner.The great majority of prostitution in this country involves men hiring prostitutes.There is some prostitution and porn geared to women.Not nearly as much as for men.I know my mom is like Zig.She can't see why a man would want to look at anyone other than their partner.She has no clue why men are that way.When I go to the house,my Dad is always trying to hide some internet PORN site or something from her.Old man seemed to get a thrill out of watching that thing where women broadcast the news while naked...I knew there was a market for that somewhere...LOL...There is a big difference between the 2.Very different drives.

let's clarify a few things....
first of all, i know that men are very much into the visual, while women are not. that's why more often women want the light off, and men want the light on. as for porn, i wouldn't equate porn with cheating. we've gotten playboy for the length of our marriage-i joke that i read the articles, while he looks at the pics. a friend of mine (whose husband is her burden thankfully) asked me if i minded tony looking at playboy. i laughed and told her no-her hubby on the other hand gets old lady mags, fat lady mags, etc which we both find pretty horrifying....but anyway, that stuff is not a bother to me. we have stuff we watch together, but he doesn't do online stuff...

like nicole said, it's a choice. you don't put yourself in a bad situation, you don't encourage anyone who might show an interest, and you let people know off the bat that it's not your game. tony and i are proud of what we've got, and we want to keep it that way. a momentary thrill elsewhere just wouldn't be worth it.

btw, it's our 22nd anniversary today. we're going to hot springs and oaklawn next wknd to celebrate, since he has to work this wknd.

Happy Anniversary....and here's to many more

thank you very much!!

Happy Anniversary, Deb. :cool:

Has anybody noticed there have been 3 females that have an issue with the statement I wrote(about men needing to look at other women,) and only 1 male? Then that male admitted that he does enjoy watching porn (away from his woman.) That was in well over 36 hours of posting.Now,men are gunna come in now to be gentlemen and back the ladies up(yea,I positioned that phrase there for entertainment purposes .) The women didn't seem to need the 36 hours to think about it.

Not sure that I completely agree with your over generalization....that being said I will say that atractive women (plural) are more likely to catch my eye than the non-attractive ones...also I suspect that if the cake is the right one then I could do without the pie...(this is however an as yet unproven theory :D )

I didn't disagree with what you wrote... only the part about ALL men wanting to cheat. Not every guy has the 'desire' to go out and cheat. I don't consider going to strip clubs, viewing porn and reading Hustler 'cheating.' Perhaps some women do, but not me.

You also act like only men are privy to these thoughts... I know of just as many women who cheat as I do men. You think women don't like looking at hot men? You think we LIKE when our significant others look like fat, lazy slobs? Come on... LOL

I just like to view myself as an "equal opportunity kinda guy":cool:

Yes,all with testicle have this desire,but they fight it as best they can.They almost all give in to (atleast) porn.This product is made to enable men to cheat without being called cheats.Why would any man need to look at some naked woman(other than his own?) It's because he is wired to want variety,but forced(with firepower in certain cases) to try to act as his woman wants him to act. So,thank him for his fine efforts.

Yet another agourd winning thread.







Lesion inducing.

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